Dear Mercury Advice –
There’s a boy who likes me and asked me to the movies. He’s nice, but I like his best friend better. Is it okay to go out with him just to get closer to his best friend?
Confused Lady
ADVICE #1
Dear Confused Lady,
No it is not okay and here’s why. If you do not like this boy then you should make that apparent in a gentle way. Secondly, it isn’t right to use someone to get closer to his friend. If you like his friend then you should go up and talk to his friend instead of using the poor kid. However, if the boy’s friend is a true friend, then he might not even consider going out with you if he knows that his friend is interested in you. If this happens you might as well cut your losses. Either way, this would be a dramatic scene. If you did happen to date this boy’s friend, you’d be in the middle of a lot tension and you’d, of course, be that tension. The boys might not actually fight over you, but questions of their trust and loyalty would come into play. My advice is it might not even be worth talking to this boy’s friend, cut your losses and find someone new.
Laura Egan
ADVICE #2
Dear Confused Lady –
It is not okay to go out with the best friend to get closer because guys will think that you’re easy. The best friend always has a say on the girl his friend chooses and you don’t want him to think you’re easy. Just tell the bestfriend you’re not interested and tell him why, then make your move on his friend.
Jazzy
ADVICE #3
Dear Confused Lady –
It is NEVER okay to date someone just to get closer to their friend. First of all, it is highly likely that you will hurt this person’s feelings. So you should kindly tell this person that you do not feel the same as they do, & you wish to keep it on a friendship basis. Secondly, if you like his best friend, why don’t you just tell him, I mean it may seem difficult but it’s better to do that than to get his friend involved. You might even find that he likes you, too. Just go about everything in a manner that won’t upset anyone!
Titziana James